when do you unfollow?
So I am NOT a dating expert by any means, but I have spent my time on the apps (shouldn't use past tense ;) ) and have dated a few characters.
do I follow you on social media? How long after meeting do you follow someone? How long after do you unfollow someone you maybe shouldn't have ever followed?!
So back in Nashville I was single for a few months before I got on Bumble. The first guy I went on a date with follow me on Instagram and snapchat. A little prematurely in my book, a decent amount of snaps were exchanged, views from respective desks and so on. Things ended after the second date and we still followed each other. I appreciate any follow because it is part of this whole "blogger" thing but do I really want to follow someone I barely know? Do I care to see his posts? Not to be mean but....no!So the next question is do you unfollow this person? I guess there are no hard feelings with someone you met twice but do want that person on your feed? I ended up unfollowing him a week or two later on instagram but I believe he is still around on snapchat.The next guy lasted a little longer than 2 dates and he happened to be starting a business on social media. So we chatted about Instagram a lot and of course followed each other because it was also supporting each other. He started buying followers and when we ended it really annoyed me when he surpassed my follower count in bought followers....ugh cheaters!We still follow each other, I don't follow his personal account anymore but he follows me on both of his accounts. This is when I realized wait, having someone you don't see anymore still follow you could be bitchy-fun*. Because he texted me once saying "you look good in your recent pic" which now kinda makes me uncomfortable but at the time it was empowering. I realize that this doesn't apply as much if your account is public but you get it anyway.The other side to this is, ex's family members. You become friends with the whole family on mainly Facebook but Instagram as well. Unfollowing someone on Instagram is easy and happens every day. But unfriending someone on Facebook, for some reason, seems more drastic. Probably because back in the day unfriending someone was so mean and purposeful. An ex that appeared on my Instagram a few times (which I always say I won't do until x point and then right after that point we break up..so next time he isn't showing up on my instagam until I am showing y'all a ring! haha) his mom and I are friends are Facebook...which my crazy mom quickly noticed and still calls me to say did you see she liked your photo. Becuase she was still liking (which is kind TY) post break up with her son. Do you unfriend your ex-boyfriend's mom? I think I am going to soon, but I am kind of glad I haven't yet. Mainly because I wouldn't have found out he got engaged until someone mustered up the courage to tell me.So, pro to staying friends or followers of ex and their families, you learn life events without an awkward call from a pal. Con? You learn he got engaged barely a year later alone on your couch when you were already pouring another glass of wine.I don't think there are any pros to keeping short-term people you literally dated around on social media. You didn't want them in your real life so why do you need them in your curated life?Any good social media + dating stories?